The simple rule
Notice something specific, add a little of yourself, and ask one easy question. On Paire you can send this as a note with your like, so it's the first thing they see.
Openers that work
- "Your Ladakh photo has me jealous. Was it as cold as it looks?"
- "Fellow momo critic here. Best place in your area, go."
- "You said you're learning guitar. What's the first song you got right?"
- "Okay, team chai or team coffee? This decides everything."
- "Your bio says Sunday = long walks. Favourite walk in the city?"
- "I also re-read Harry Potter every year. Which book is the best and why is it Azkaban?"
What to avoid
- Comments only about looks, especially in the first message.
- Copy-paste lines sent to everyone.
- Asking for a number or Instagram straight away.
- Anything sexual unless you're both clearly on the same page.
Keeping it going
Answer their question, add something about you, and ask one back. After a good back-and-forth, suggest a short, public plan. Paire AI can suggest openers based on what you have in common if you're stuck.